The biggest thing that I have noticed with having a baby is the lack of control. There is ZERO ability to plan anything (anyone who says otherwise is just plain wrong). Just when you think you understand the way a baby work he decides to do a 180, just to spite you. That being said there is one thing that I have noticed has really helped me feel better about zero planning, staying fluid.
You can have things you want to do and still do them with a child, they just aren't going to come about in the way that you think. Don't worry if things do not go even close to plan, just go with the flow and don't worry about it. For people who are very planning oriented this transition is very difficult, but just keep it in your head that this baby is legit doing everything for the first time. This time two months ago JW was not even a baby yet. He had never taken a breath, eaten food, pooped, anything. That is the thing I try and keep in my head for when I get aggravated (and you will get aggravated, pissed off, etc.)
Fluidity is key in the advice that you get from others as well. Advice is awesome and really you should take in as much as you can, however don't listen to 3/4 of it. Everyone knows everything about kids when they are giving advice, but in reality almost all of it is opinion to take it as that.
Parents are great, but they are one of the biggest advice givers. Listen to them, take what you like and ignore what you don't. In our cases our parents haven't had babies in 10 years, which doesn't seem like a lot, but really is. Don't be bullied by your parents...you are the parents now!
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